What about the hard days, the days when you want to throw in the towel, those days when you just want to quit being a caregiver. As caregivers, you're navigating unbelievably complex and time-consuming situations.
You're faced with the grimmest challenges
How many times have you wished you could get off the caregiving train? It’s not fun. It’s a huge sacrifice. Your heart is telling you to keep going but your mind and body are tapped and the pressure and exhaustion becomes too much.
First, rid yourself of feeling guilty, embarrassed or shame. You're human and it’s normal to wish things would just go away. There’s no greater drain than holding yourself to unrealistic expectations or that picture of the perfect, committed caregiver.
This caregiving journey isn’t short term, usually it’s a very long term journey. You have to relook at your expectations of yourself and what you commit to. You can’t hold up to a commitment and sacrifice that you originally thought you could.
What can you give up.
You’re the CEO of a really complicated enterprise. Successful CEOs are constantly re-evaluating their priorities every year, every month, every week and every day to figure out what’s most important. They delegate or let go of everything else. They know that otherwise they’d be ineffective.
Sit down and make a list of all the things you CAN give up; and all of things you could offload to other people. Be ruthless. Be strategic.
Caregivers often carry around undeserved guilt, believing that they aren’t doing enough for their loved ones. This guilt can make the caregiving role even more stressful than it already is. One might ask why a caregiver feels guilty when they’re doing such a courageous job.
Guilt is the feeling we have when we do something wrong.
Guilt in caring for our loved one comes in many forms. And sometimes caregivers feel guilty about thinking of their own needs and see that as selfish, especially if they go to a movie or out to lunch with a friend.You may believe that your own needs are insignificant.
So ask yourself: Why do I feel guilty?
Why does needing to ask for help lead to caregiver guilt?
So let’s flip here and move from why to what...
Caregiving can often feel like a tightrope walk, a delicate balancing act between taking care of a loved one and self-care. It's a role filled with complexities and challenges that can lead to caregivers feeling overwhelmed and burned out. Our latest podcast episode titled "Untangling the Complexities of Caregiving: Asserting Yourself, Setting Boundaries, and Harnessing the Power of 'No'" delves into these complexities and offers practical advice and actionable strategies to empower caregivers.
The role of a caregiver can be draining, physically, emotionally, and mentally. We often ignore the silent signals our bodies and minds send us when we've hit our limits. It's crucial to recognize these signs and respond accordingly. Whether it's feeling exhausted, angry, or resentful, these are all signs that you need to take a step back and assess your commitment, health, and overall situation. By acknowledging these signals, caregivers can take the first step towards setting healthy boundaries and asserting their needs.
One of the most challenging tasks in caregiving is setting boundaries. Often, caregivers feel obligated to say 'yes' to everything, leaving no time or energy for themselves. However, setting boundaries is not just necessary; it's a form of self-care. It's about acknowledging your limits, identifying what crosses the line, and figuring out solutions. The podcast episode presents a four-step process to help caregivers address situations that overstep their boundaries, enabling them to better manage their time and responsibilities.
The episode also delves into the transformative power of saying 'no'. Saying 'no' can serve as an empowering tool in a caregiver's toolkit. It's not about refusing to care; it's about asserting your needs and setting limits that allow you to provide care without compromising your wellbeing. Saying 'no' can open up opportunities to share caregiving responsibilities with others, deepen the level of honesty and openness in your...