Discovering the Power of 'No' in Caregiving

Caregiving can often feel like a tightrope walk, a delicate balancing act between taking care of a loved one and self-care. It's a role filled with complexities and challenges that can lead to caregivers feeling overwhelmed and burned out. Our latest podcast episode titled "Untangling the Complexities of Caregiving: Asserting Yourself, Setting Boundaries, and Harnessing the Power of 'No'" delves into these complexities and offers practical advice and actionable strategies to empower caregivers.

The role of a caregiver can be draining, physically, emotionally, and mentally. We often ignore the silent signals our bodies and minds send us when we've hit our limits. It's crucial to recognize these signs and respond accordingly. Whether it's feeling exhausted, angry, or resentful, these are all signs that you need to take a step back and assess your commitment, health, and overall situation. By acknowledging these signals, caregivers can take the first step towards setting healthy...

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Confronting and Overcoming Fears in Caregiving

Fear, a haunting presence in our lives, is especially poignant in the world of caregiving. It can take on many forms and shapes, casting long shadows that seem impossible to escape. In our latest podcast episode, we delve into this complex issue, providing guidance and strategies to help caregivers confront and overcome their fears.
 
We begin by setting the stage with Halloween tales and personal anecdotes, revealing how fear has been a part of our lives since childhood. Fear, much like the ghouls and ghosts that come to life during the Halloween season, can sometimes take on a life of its own. However, as we transition into the main topics of the episode, we reveal that acknowledging and understanding these fears can be the first step towards overcoming them.
 
In the realm of caregiving, fear often manifests as a sense of inadequacy, a dread of making mistakes, or anxiety over financial instability. It can also manifest as fear of the unknown, especially when dealing...
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Pruning your caregiver challenges and overwhelm

 

Welcome to Episode 25:    Pruning your caregiver challenges and overwhelm

This week I started my Spring gardening prep.   

I can’t clean out the leaves and debris yet since until it gets warmer since the bees, butterflies and other little insects are trying to stay warm yet.  But it’s time to prune the bushes and trees.  

My husband just rolls his eyes and goes along with my gardening passion.   If it was up to him, we would just leave it.  But I want the plants and trees needs just a bit of help to show their beauty.  

Here’s the definition: 

Pruning removes dead and dying branches and stubs, allowing room for new growth and protecting your property and passerby from damage. It also deters pest and animal infestation and promotes the plant's natural shape and healthy growth.

It’s also a reminder that we can do our own personal pruning too.  

  • Can you prune back those dead or...
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The two ways you become a caregiver and how to manage it

caregiver challenges Feb 02, 2021
 

The two ways you become a caregiver and how to manage it. 

There are two ways you become a caregiver:  

The first I call the creeper.   Maybe you can think of a better word…..    

1.  Caregiving often creeps up on you.  

It may start with dropping by your mom’s house and doing her laundry or taking your dad to a doctor’s appointment.  You find yourself doing the grocery shopping or refilling prescriptions.  Gradually, you are doing more and more.  At some point, you realize you have a commitment to take care of someone else

I can relate with my Mom aging.  Soon she won’t be driving. 

Or for others 

2.  The Sudden Event

Sometimes caregiving is triggered by a major health event, such as a stroke, heart attack, or accident.  Maybe you suddenly realize that dad’s memory lapses have become dangerous.  

The Sudden Events for me was my spouse...

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The struggle is real - why is it hard to put yourself first

How many articles have you read?  How many times have people told you?  "Make sure you take care of yourself."  The struggle is real and it's easier said than done.

You know you need to be healthy and strong to be the best Caregiver, the best Wife, the best Boss, the best Co-worker and more.  If you are like me, putting yourself first is a struggle with feelings of guilt and shame.  

The flight attendant demonstrates the oxygen mask and says, in the event of an emergency you need to put yours on first before putting it on others.   Others will say you can't  pour from an empty cup.

So why do most women break this rule resulting in exhaustion, health issues, stress, and anxiety?   I believe some of it is because of learned habits, experiences and stereotypes.   

If you think about you as a young girl, you most likely developed nurturing and caregiving skills through watching your Mom,...

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