Hey there, fellow caregivers!

In this week's episode of Caregiver Cup Podcast, we delved deep into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: navigating ruminating thoughts on the caregiving journey. I shared my personal experiences and insights on how to transform those moments of dread into determination, and I wanted to expand on that in this blog post.

From Dread to Determination: My Journey

I woke up one Friday morning dreading the day ahead. Negative thoughts were swirling in my mind, and I couldn't shake the feeling of impending doom. My spouse, Denis, had an oncology appointment scheduled, and despite having been through similar appointments countless times before, this one felt different.

As I walked my dogs, trying to process my thoughts and mood, I realized there was more to my dread than just the appointment itself. It wasn't just the fear of bad news or uncertainty about Denis' health that weighed on me—it was something deeper.

After some...

Hello and welcome to another insightful episode of The Caregiver Cup Podcast. Today, we're delving into a crucial topic: How to Show Up Better When Faced with Hard Situations, Crises, or Feeling Stuck. This discussion stems from my recent personal experience with dental issues, and I believe it will shed light on transformative changes you can make in challenging circumstances.

In late February, I found myself in excruciating tooth pain. A visit to the dentist, an exam, and x-rays yielded no immediate solutions. Despite the pain being manageable at first, it intensified rapidly. This led to a frustrating series of events that mirrored the challenges many caregivers face.

This dental saga provided me with a fresh perspective on what we can control and influence in challenging situations, a lesson I believe is invaluable for caregivers. It's essential to consider what aspects we can change, influence, and control when faced with the overwhelming nature of caregiving.

So,...

Only when you first help yourselves can you effectively help others. Caring for yourself is one of the most important—and one of the most often forgotten—things you can do as a caregiver. When your needs are taken care of, the person you care for will benefit.

How do you do this?  You have to create the foundation to succeed  Creating a foundation to be that effective caregiver.    

What is foundation / framework?
What about your health and vitality?

You can’t rely on your own personal discipline

What would the ideal environment be to ensure you are effective today? 

 If your productivity or motivation is not there?

Think about what infrastructures are you lacking?   What things can I put in place that helps me be a better version of myself and a better caregiver?  

The second is your strategy or asset to your caregiving:  Y_O _U    Yes,  taking care of yourself.  

I know, it...

Navigating the healthcare system can be an intricate and daunting task, especially when it involves caring for a loved one. In a recent episode of our podcast, we had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Monique Nugent, an experienced hospitalist and the author of "Prescription for Admission." The episode was a deep dive into the world of hospital advocacy and communication, providing caregivers with an abundance of strategies to de-stress and enhance the hospital experience for elderly patients.

Dr. Nugent's expertise in the field shone through as she discussed the pivotal role that hospitalists play in patient care. She highlighted the importance of being well-prepared and aligning with your loved one's values to ensure their wishes are respected. This can make a significant difference in the stress levels experienced during hospitalization and lead to a more positive experience for all involved.

A particularly enlightening segment of the conversation focused on personal...

I never thought I would experience it again.  

These past couple weeks I have been riding the emotional roller coaster of caregiving - again.   

The words that come to mind are sudden, unexpected and why.

Cancer sucks.  It is a nasty disease.   

Aging sucks.  I hate the circle of life right now.  

But this podcast isn’t a pity party or a Debbie downer.  It’s funny how fast you forget about those firsts.  

• The first inkling that something isn’t right with your loved one.
• The initial shock and numbness when you hear the bad news.
• Then comes all those emotions.  
• Hours of sadness, crying, grief before you really need to
• Anger, frustration 
• Worry, confusion 
• Feeling those nerves inside shaking
• You can’t focus

First, let me tell you about my Mom.  I’m blessed to have a great mother-daughter relationship.  

She is an energizer bunny.  The...