As caregivers, we often believe we have to handle everything ourselves. We convince ourselves that it’s our responsibility, our duty, and sometimes even our identity to be the sole support system for our loved ones. But here’s the truth: caregiving isn’t a solo mission. Trying to do everything alone not only leads to burnout but also prevents us from providing the best care for our loved ones.

In this blog post, we’ll break down why support is non-negotiable for every caregiver and how you can take the first steps toward building your support system. I’ll also share details about my coaching programs that can help you find relief and thrive in your caregiving journey.

Why We Feel We Should Do It All

Many caregivers, myself included, fall into the trap of thinking we have to do everything ourselves. It often stems from several deep-rooted beliefs:

1. Sense of Duty and Guilt: We feel it’s our responsibility to care for our loved one, and...

Caregivers often carry around undeserved guilt, believing that they aren’t doing enough for their loved ones. This guilt can make the caregiving role even more stressful than it already is. One might ask why a caregiver feels guilty when they’re doing such a courageous job.

Guilt is the feeling we have when we do something wrong. 

Guilt in caring for our loved one comes in many forms.  And sometimes caregivers feel guilty about thinking of their own needs and see that as selfish, especially if they go to a movie or out to lunch with a friend.You may believe that your own needs are insignificant.  

So ask yourself:   Why do I feel guilty?  

• Is it Shame?  
• Is it Control?  
• Do you feel like you failed?
• What other people will think?  

Why does needing to ask for help lead to caregiver guilt?

• We're afraid someone will see us as weak. Actually, it takes a pretty strong person to ask for help when they need it.
• We feel that...