E247: Questions Every Caregiver Should Ask to Find Clarity and Focus

Caregiving is one of the most challenging yet rewarding journeys you can embark on. But let’s face it: it’s not something we’re trained for, nor is it something most of us expect to do. The emotional toll, physical demands, and constant stress can leave even the strongest among us feeling overwhelmed and stuck. That’s why taking time to pause, reflect, and ask yourself meaningful questions is so important.

These questions are designed to help you assess where you are, uncover areas that need attention, and take actionable steps to create a more intentional caregiving life. Whether you’re just starting your caregiving journey or have been at it for years, these reflections can guide you toward clarity and focus, helping you care for both your loved one and yourself.

1. How Am I Prioritizing My Self-Care?

Let’s start with the most crucial question. Your well-being is the foundation of everything you do as a caregiver. Without it, burnout is inevitable, and the care you provide may suffer.

Sub-questions to consider:

• Am I prioritizing my physical, emotional, and mental health?

• When was the last time I did something that truly recharged me?

• Do I feel rested and nourished, or am I constantly running on empty?

• What’s one small thing I can do for myself today to feel better?

If this question feels difficult to answer, know that it’s normal. Self-care often takes a backseat when you’re focused on others, but it’s essential to make time for it. Consider listening to Episode 18 of The Caregiver Cup Podcast or booking a Caregiver Breakthrough Session to gain clarity on how to prioritize yourself.

2. Am I Being Realistic About What I Can Handle?

Caregiving often comes with a “do-it-all” mentality, but the truth is, none of us can (or should) do it all. Being realistic about your limits allows you to set boundaries and create a sustainable caregiving routine.

Sub-questions to consider:

• Am I trying to handle everything on my own?

• Have I set realistic expectations for what I can manage?

• Are there tasks I can delegate or say “no” to?

• What boundaries do I need to put in place to protect my time and energy?

For more on setting boundaries, check out books like Boundary Boss by Terri Cole or BadAss Advocate by Erin Mulqueen Gayleen.

3. Why Is This Happening, and What Can I Do About It?

Peeling back the layers of your caregiving challenges can be uncomfortable, but understanding the “why” behind your struggles is the first step toward resolving them.

Sub-questions to consider:

• What’s the biggest challenge I’m facing right now as a caregiver?

• Why do I feel this challenge is overwhelming?

• Have I been avoiding a difficult conversation or decision?

• What’s one small step I can take to address this issue today?

Remember, this is a constant work in progress. Reflection is not about perfection; it’s about progress.

4. How Am I Managing My Stress?

Stress is inevitable in caregiving, but burnout doesn’t have to be. Managing stress requires intentional effort and tools to keep it in check.

Sub-questions to consider:

• What’s my current stress level on a scale of 1 to 10?

• How am I coping with stress? Are these strategies helping or hurting me?

• What’s one thing I can do today to recharge my energy?

• Am I reaching out for support when I need it?

For free tools and strategies, visit my Resources Page for tips to manage caregiver stress and prevent burnout.

5. What’s My Plan B?

Caregiving is unpredictable, and having a backup plan can reduce anxiety and provide peace of mind during uncertain times.

Sub-questions to consider:

• Do I have a clear Plan B for emergencies or sudden changes in my loved one’s condition?

• What resources (family, friends, professionals) can I tap into for support?

• If I couldn’t provide care for a day or longer, who could step in to help?

• Am I keeping important information organized and accessible?

If long-term planning feels overwhelming, I’m here to guide you. Consider a coaching session to create a customized caregiving plan that works for you.

6. What Am I Grateful For Today?

Gratitude is the glue that holds everything together. It doesn’t erase challenges, but it shifts your focus to the good moments that make the caregiving journey meaningful.

Sub-questions to consider:

• What’s one thing I’m grateful for today, no matter how small?

• What moments of joy, connection, or peace can I hold onto from this week?

• How does focusing on gratitude change the way I feel about caregiving?

Start or end your day by jotting down a few things you’re grateful for. Over time, this simple practice can transform your mindset.

Closing Thoughts: A Practice to Revisit

Taking the time to reflect on these six questions can be a powerful way to reset and refocus your caregiving journey. Whether you revisit them monthly, seasonally, or whenever you feel overwhelmed, these questions provide a foundation for assessing where you are, identifying what’s working, and targeting small, actionable steps to improve your well-being and caregiving experience.

Remember, caregiving isn’t just about what you do for your loved one—it’s also about how you care for yourself along the way. Even one small shift can create a ripple effect that makes everything feel more manageable and meaningful.

Bookmark this blog, save these questions, and make it a point to return to them when you need to recalibrate. If you’re looking for additional support, don’t hesitate to explore my free resources or book a Caregiver Breakthrough Session to create a personalized plan for your caregiving journey.

Your caregiving journey matters, and so do you. Let’s keep growing, reflecting, and moving toward a life that nurtures both you and your loved one.